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Thursday, November 22, 2018

Parents Still Worrying About Their Adult Children

Filipinos are known for their strong family ties so much so that even when their children reached adulthood and raise their own family, they still want to live with their folks. Sometimes it doesn't have to be under one roof but at least they are living in the same village or compound still close to each other. Parents who are overseas Filipino workers (OFWs) also look after the needs of their kids even if they have their own family.
Parents are naturally worrisome when it comes to their small kids but would you believe that even their children are already grown-ups or had reached adulthood, parents never cease to have a poor quality of sleep due to excessive worrying about their beloved offsprings?

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But it does not only happen in the Philippines. The latest study in the U.S. which was published in the journal The Gerontologist revealed that many parents are also worried about their grown-up children.

The study, published in the also finds that the reasons parents sleep deprivation reasons may be different for men and women.

Lead study author Amber J. Seidel, Ph.D., of Penn State York in Pennsylvania, is a family gerontologist and said she got involved with the research because she believes family relationships are so important to society.

Filipinos are known for their strong family ties so much so that even when their children reached adulthood and raise their own family, they still want to live with their folks. Sometimes it doesn't have to be under one roof but at least they are living in the same village or compound still close to each other. Parents who are overseas Filipino workers (OFWs) also look after the needs of their kids even if they have their own family. Parents are naturally worrisome when it comes to their small kids but would you believe that even their children are already grown-ups or had reached adulthood, parents never cease to have a poor quality of sleep due to excessive worrying about their beloved offsprings? Ads Sponsored Links But it does not only happen in the Philippines. The latest study in the U.S. which was published in the journal The Gerontologist revealed that many parents are also worried about their grown-up children. The study, published in the also finds that the reasons parents sleep deprivation reasons may be different for men and women. Lead study author Amber J. Seidel, Ph.D., of Penn State York in Pennsylvania, is a family gerontologist and said she got involved with the research because she believes family relationships are so important to society. For the study, the researchers examined data on 186 married couples who had two to three adult children. Men with ages 58 years old and the women about 57 on average The researchers asked the parents to rate the different types of support they offer their adult children on a scale of 1 to 8, with 1 being daily and 8 being no more than once a year. Types of support included companionship, emotional support, practical help, discussing daily events, advice, and financial assistance. The parents also rated how stressful they find it to help their adult children, and how much they worry about their adult children, on a scale from 1 to 5, with 1 being “not at all” and 5 being “a great deal.” The participants also reported the amount of sleep they got every night. The husbands had six hours reported average sleeping hours a night, while the wives slept about a few minutes lesser. The results showed that for husbands, the support that they provided their grown children was associated with poorer sleep; conversely, the husbands slept more when their wives reported providing support for the kids. No such impact was seen on the women’s sleep. However, for the women, higher stress about supporting their children did appear to impair their sleep. Stress levels over this issue did not appear to affect how much the husbands slept. Overall, the study found that the giving of support itself affected the men, while stress over the support was what affected the women. The study also said that through the emergence of technology like smartphones and the internet, the parents are further informed about their children's situation and the more they learn about their children, the more they are likely to worry and affect their sleeping quality. It is reported that lack of sleep could cause serious illness and significantly affect human overall health. She also suggests that parents reflect on their level of involvement in their adult child’s life, how their child is receiving it, and whether they are enabling their child, seeking to control their child, or providing support. The author said that the study is limited in that it can’t prove whether support for adult kids or stress over that support directly affects sleep. It also may be that lack of sleep exacerbates stress, rather than the other way around. Still, Seidel says future research should continue to explore how the relationships between parents and their adult children can affect all areas of health and well-being. Filed under the category of adulthood, Filipinos, overseas Filipino workers, parents, strong family ties, poor quality of sleep

For the study, the researchers examined data on 186 married couples who had two to three adult children. Men with ages 58 years old and the women about 57 on average

The researchers asked the parents to rate the different types of support they offer their adult children on a scale of 1 to 8, with 1 being daily and 8 being no more than once a year. Types of support included companionship, emotional support, practical help, discussing daily events, advice, and financial assistance.

The parents also rated how stressful they find it to help their adult children, and how much they worry about their adult children, on a scale from 1 to 5, with 1 being “not at all” and 5 being “a great deal.”

The participants also reported the amount of sleep they got every night. The husbands had six hours reported average sleeping hours a night, while the wives slept about a few minutes lesser.

The results showed that for husbands, the support that they provided their grown children was associated with poorer sleep; conversely, the husbands slept more when their wives reported providing support for the kids. No such impact was seen on the women’s sleep.

However, for the women, higher stress about supporting their children did appear to impair their sleep. Stress levels over this issue did not appear to affect how much the husbands slept.

Overall, the study found that the giving of support itself affected the men, while stress over the support was what affected the women.

The study also said that through the emergence of technology like smartphones and the internet, the parents are further informed about their children's situation and the more they learn about their children, the more they are likely to worry and affect their sleeping quality.

It is reported that lack of sleep could cause serious illness and significantly affect human overall health.

She also suggests that parents reflect on their level of involvement in their adult child’s life, how their child is receiving it, and whether they are enabling their child, seeking to control their child, or providing support.

The author said that the study is limited in that it can’t prove whether support for adult kids or stress over that support directly affects sleep. It also may be that lack of sleep exacerbates stress, rather than the other way around.

Still, Seidel says future research should continue to explore how the relationships between parents and their adult children can affect all areas of health and well-being.
Filed under the category of adulthood, Filipinos, overseas Filipino workers, parents, strong family ties, poor quality of sleep

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ur fervent warning to all: do not trust anyone you only knew over the internet. Being compassionate is one of the good traits of the Filipinos especially the overseas Filipino workers (OFW). They could not help but extend help when they know that somebody needed it badly. The downside of it is that they are being vulnerable to abuse. Just like an OFW who was victimized by a scammer whom he only knew on social media. The suspect asked him to give money over reasons he only made up and ran away with a sum of P4 million. Ads Sponsored Links The suspect was arrested by the operatives of the National Bureau of Investigation (NBI) Anti-Graft Division following the complaints of his OFW victim, Dale (real name withheld) that he made up stories to gain the victim's compassion and extort money from the poor victim. The suspect, Jason Rabe, was arrested inside a mall. Dale narrated that he was giving cash to the suspect in multiple occasions since last year. Rabe told the OFW that he needed money for the hospitalization of his sibling. He also told the OFW that his parents and his other sibling died just recently. In total, including the money he sent for an alleged business investment, the suspect took P4 million cash from the OFW victim. With growing suspicion, the OFW finally investigated and found out that there was no business investment and all the stories that the suspect was telling him were all nonexistent and made up by the suspect to extort cash from him. NBI Anti-Graft Division acting chief Nathaniel Ramos warns the public to be very cautious, observant and vigilant especially on those people whom you only knew online Rabe is now caressing the iron bars in effect of violation to Cybercrime Prevention Act of 2012 and estafa charges. Filed under the category of warning, internet, compassionate, abuse, scammer, social media, OFW, overseas Filipino workers

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A Filipino woman faked her own death and stole her sister’s identity just to apply for a passport. Unfortunately, she is now about to lose her U.S. citizenship. Identity theft is a serious crime. Ads Sponsored Links A 43-year-old Emilita Arindela, of Mount Desert Island, was sentenced to 10 days in jail for making a false statement on her passport application in federal court in Maine. It’s unclear if she will be stripped off of her American citizenship by federal authorities but it is more likely to happen. Prosecutors say Arindela was already married when she married an American man in 2000. She moved to the U.S. in 2002 and later became a naturalized citizen, using her sister’s name. Arindela left her second husband and married another man in 2007. Arindela’s lawyer says his client escaped an abusive marriage in the Philippines and has been a obedience to the US laws. Filed under the category of Filipino woman , passport, U.S. citizenship, Identity theft

In spite of the rising prices of commodities and services and others due to the high inflation rate, many Filipinos believe that the country is on the right track. Just recently, the new minimum fare is being set to P10 while the minimum wage remains stuck. That is what the latest SWS survey indicates. Ads Sponsored Links The latest survey shows that from 70% in the second quarter of this year, the statistics went up to 75%. On the other hand, only 22% believed the Philippines is in the wrong path while 3% of the 1,500 respondents did not give an answer during the conducted survey. Malacañang welcomes this result as a vindication that the administration is doing their job the keep the country on track. “PRRD emphasized in numerous occasions that as government workers, we are here to serve the people. Our objective as public servants is thus being able to perform our respective duties well,” Presidential spokesperson Salvador Panelo said. “Therefore, we treat the results of this recent survey not as an accolade but as an inspiration for our men and women in the government as they persist in carrying on with their roles in the service,” Panelo added. According to the presidential spokesperson, the strong public appreciation would further engage the Filipino people in supporting the Duterte administration in building “a nation where all Filipinos can experience comfortable and decent lives under a trustworthy government.” Filed under the category of commodities and services, high inflation rate, Filipinos, minimum fare, minimum wage, SWS survey

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Friday, March 24, 2017

Child Abduction Attempt Caught on CCTV Camera

Just recently, an abduction attempt was caught on CCTV camera. Sonya, a mother of a 10 yr-old pupil was furious as her daughter was almost kidnapped by unknown people who allegedly abduct children.

On March 21 in San Dionisio, Parañaque, after their classes, Anna was asked by her classmate to go to the gym near their school. A woman approached them while a man standing was behind them. The woman asked the pupils where to find the barangay. The pupils responded by pointing the way to the barangay but the woman insisted that they come with her to the place. Anna then said: "We already showed you the direction, why would you want us to still go with you?"
The woman said that they need to take their measurements for their P.E. uniform and forcibly taken them to the nearby fast food chain telling the kids that their teacher was waiting for them. The other kid followed in fear as the woman asked them to change their clothes at the restroom. Anna did not do what the woman said. When they went out, the woman grabbed Anna's arm tightly then brought her in a dark area across the street. The woman insisted that she change her clothes.
Anna strongly resisted and hit the woman with her elbow then she ran away. As she escape, Anna saw her teacher and told her what happened. They went back to the fast food chain and found the other kid crying in fear. The woman and the man that was with her was nowhere to be found.
An investigation about the incident is currently being conducted. The authorities warned every parents to carefully watch over their children and for the children not to come with a stranger or even talk to them .

Another video from Minglanilla, Cebu about a white van allegedly used for abducting or kidnapping pupils that has been caught by the police surfaced. The suspects that were put on hold in a police station denied the allegations that they kidnap kids saying that they are representatives of interactive learning materials for kids.

For years, reports about a white van that allegedly abduct kids and harvest their organs and sell it to international buyers sow fear among parents.
Whether it is true or not, it is always better for the parents to watch their kids and fervently remind them NEVER to talk to strangers even if they say that they know their parents or anyone they know.
We need to be vigilant and watchful because the bad elements never ran out of schemes to lure their victims to their traps.