Studies have shown fighting makes for a healthy relationship because it reflects maturity, openness and oftentimes results to a more passionate kiss-and-make-up thingy.
Years ago, Minnesota-based Star Tribune published a report about a survey stating that 44% of married couples believe fighting more than once a week makes for productive relationships.
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The study holds true to these days, though, and a portal on good reads about anything from relationships to curiosities.
Fighting reveals passion.
Some couples really enjoy intense arguments because doing so increase their hormone levels, the published article said. Subconsciously, those people know that fighting is just a sign of their passion, and their disagreement will end up being an even more passionate makeup. Just don’t forget to finish any argument in a positive way.
Fighting is a sign of a mature relationship.
Constant conflict avoidance is definitely not the best way to build a long-lasting relationship, psychologists would agree.
“Mature people don’t resort to personal attacks or yelling either. Instead, they always try to reach a compromise and improve their relationship with the help of a healthy argument,” the portal said.
Fighting means you care.
This may sound cheesy, even borderline masochistic but you may look the other way on your partner’s insane habits or fight it out, withstand all the pain and discomfort of doing so because it’s an expression of your true love.
In other words, arguing means that you’re more committed.
Fighting is a sign of a healthy relationship.
Psychologists, among them, Dr. Stephanie A. Sarkis, say there are seven key points to a healthy and happy relationship, and arguing is one of them. In fact, if a couple never argues, this may be a sign that something isn’t quite right with them, they say.
“Arguing helps couples reconsider their values and feelings by addressing and discussing the things that are important to them. However, your argument should be healthy and non-combative — always try to state your points without name-calling or raising your voice.
Fighting makes your connection stronger.
It’s definitely not about who wins an argument as it is more about learning from it.
Fighting relieves your resentment.
You go the extra mile to show your love, right? What happens if it’s not reciprocated? You feel resentment. What you should do is let your negative feelings out and show your partner that you’re both equals with your own needs. Keeping your resentment inside is dangerous to the relationship.
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