To the Ladies and to the Girls

I've talked to a lovely lady, a good friend of me and Mrs. Thoughtskoto. She told me about a guy she loved dearly and faithfully until she found out he has loved another girl. She was in despair, devastated, and heartbroken. Sad to say we've known several stories related to this, and often, most often, the one left wallowing in self pity, and sometimes, even remorse, are the girls and women who gave almost all to the guys they loved.

When we went home, Mrs. Thoughtskoto and I were talking about the scarcity of men that women can rely and depend on, that women can trust and love, and offer the best that they've got and who will love them, faithfully and truthfully. This prompted me to comment and counsel, Mhel and William, bachelor friend of ours, who are riding with us on the way home, "to be good and be responsible, for they are "endangered men". Kung meron man words na ganyan. J

I am not a perfect husband and partner, but I am trying my best to make my wife and family happy. I love my wife, and though I fail so many times, I am trying my best to show that love in word and deed. 

I am thinking about my sister, our single friends out there, single classmates and acquaintances here in Facebook. I know most of them, they are beautiful ladies, most of them are trying to be the best that they can be, and yes, all of them are waiting for that 'knight in shining armor'. Desperately hoping that one day they will find that love, they can have a family of their own, and they can live happily ever after. Though love stories and marriages are far from the fairytales and movies we watched, the reality is a combination of bitter and sweet part of learning experiences, growing love, and progressing relationship.

Below are some of the random thoughts I have right now while sitting in my desk at the laboratory with regards to choosing the man to love, to marry and to spend the rest of your life, even forever, in a perspective of a man who was once looking for a princess, and gratefully found and now, proudly bound with. 

This is not by priority;

1.    Choose a man who loves you so much, that he will do anything good for your happiness and safety.

2.    Choose a man that is responsible and respectful.

3.    A man can be personable without being a head turner, a hunky or a celebrity

4.    Oftentimes, men like and attracted to simple women and girls. Make-up and nail polish, and lipsticks are fine, but sometimes, women are more beautiful without them.

5.    Men like na magpaimpress, and we are often given hope if a woman/girl laugh or smile over our OA or corny na patawa.

6.    The man/guy who may look like nothing now, but with love and inspiration he can be successful and be more handsome than your Mr. Right fantasy.

7.    If you are looking for a good looking or very handsome prince, you might end up an old maid forever, and remember lahat tayo nagkakawrinkles and kukulubot, so balewala pa rin ang kapogian and kagwapuhan. 

8.    Love sometimes is mysterious, kumbaga, kung ukol, bubukol. We keep on loving and loving because as our love grows, our desire is not so much what can make us happy but what can we do to make the one we love more happier.

9. Character is the most important thing in love and life. A man can be good looking and rich, but without character, right values, and correct principles, you will never be happy.

10. Sabi nga sa Desiderata:

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

  

Well, that’s it for now. I have some sample preparation and analysis to do, so I will just post this and will be back to add some of my thoughts later. 

©2012 THOUGHTSKOTO

Sikat sa Labas, Bulok sa Loob

"What good is the acquisition of proficient riches, knowledge, beauty and skills if the person doesn't have the values that will enable him/her to use these things well?"

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Ako po ay dating technical engineer ng Asia Pacific environmental company sa Metro Manila nuong 2004 bago ako nagdesisyon na mangibang bansa. Isa sa mga ginagawa ko ay ang bumisita sa mga plantang sinusuplayan namin ng mga industrial chemicals and to check and do some testing.

On the way sa Sta. Rosa, Laguna one time ay napapadaan ako sa isang car manufacturing na planta. May mga nagrarally sa labas ng gate ng kumpanya. Isang pagkahaba-habang banner gawa ng sako at pulang tinta ang nakabalandra sa gilid ng kalsada na nagsasabing 

"(insert name of the brand here), sikat sa labas, bulok sa loob!".

This caught my attention and while driving pondered about the meaning.

Actually, that time the car I am driving was exactly the car brand being mentioned.

Pero along the way, and I have shared this relation many times in my write-ups, my blogs, my speeches, my Sunday talks, and lessons, that along the way, mas malalim ang naging meaning.

Merong mga taong kagaya ng isang Boyet Fajardo, sikat na clothes designer na inalipusta daw ang dalawang employee ng Duty Free.

Meron mga taong sikat, iniidolo ng masa, hinahangaan ng mundo, pero walang values, walang modo, walang puso.

Meron mga taong sobrang yaman, pero gahaman. 

Meron mga taong sobrang talino, pero walang respeto. 

Meron mga taong gwapo at gwapa, pero walang asal na maganda.

Meron mga taong magagaling, pero pabaya sa pamilya.

What good is the acquisition of proficient riches, knowledge, beauty and skills if the person doesn't have the values that will enable him/her to use these things well?

Marami akong naging amo, kakilala at kaibigan na maaring maihalintulad ko sa ganyan.

Mabuti pang maging isang simpleng tao, masaya sa pamilya, marunong makisama sa mga kaibigan, tapat at magalang. Mabuti pa ang maging simpleng tao, di man kagandahan o kagwapuhan, basta't marunong makitawa at mag spend ng little time sa pagtotouch ng puso at isipan. Simple lang, pero "rock"...nyehaha!

:)

©2009 THOUGHTSKOTO - Sikat sa labas, simple sa loob...