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According to Healthline, a person usually feel lonely after college and loneliness peaks before one reach the age of 30.
“Contrary to the popular belief that you’re surrounded by friends, parties, and fun in your 20s and 30s, the time after college is actually the time when loneliness peaks. A 2016 study published in Developmental Psychology found that, across genders, loneliness peaks just before your 30s,” it disclosed.
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Tess Brigham, a San Francisco-based therapist who specializes in treating young adults and millennials, disclosed that many of her clients feel that they must have a good career and find a good man.
“There are a lot of myths about what the 20-something years are all about…. Many of my clients think they need to have a fabulous career, be married—or at least be engaged—and have an incredible social life before they turn 30 or they’ve failed in some way,” she said.
Dorm Days Are Over
Moreover, it was noted that during school years, you could pop in and out of your buddies’ dorm rooms without so much as a knock. Now, on the other hand, with friends spread across the city and everyone trying to forge their own path, making friends has become more difficult and complicated.
“Many young adults have never had to work at making and building friendships,” Brigham says. “Actively building a community of people who support you and making friends who add something to their lives will help with the loneliness.”
Sociologists have long considered three conditions crucial to friend-making: proximity, repeated and unplanned interactions, and settings that encourage people to let their guard down. These conditions appear less frequently in life after your dorm room days are over, it was explained.
Social Media’s Effect
She also noted the effect of social media on the 20-somethings.
“If you add in social media, which is everyone else’s life highlight reel, it makes many young people feel alone and lost,” she noted.
“While the 20-something years are full of adventure and excitement, it’s also the time of your life when you determine who you are and what kind of life you want to live,” she added.
It was explained that if everyone else on social media, including influencers and celebrities, seems like living a life better than you, it could make you think of yourself as a failure.
You have to keep in mind, however, that being lonely is unhealthy. Here are the reasons why:
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