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Saturday, May 13, 2006

ABOUT US

Thoughtskoto or www.jbsolis.com is a couple's blog originally based in Saudi Arabia. They started blogging in 2005. Currently, they blog about valuable info's for Filipinos at home and abroad. They have a volunteer radio segment at RADYOOFW every Tuesday, 9PM, and the JBSOLIS site has a total pageview of over 292 Million as of June 11, 2017.

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This blog is manage by Mr. and Mrs. Thoughtskoto along with other several OFW and former OFW bloggers. Currently, this website has 7 authors and 2 editors.

Mr. Thoughtskoto in the blogging world or "Kenji" Solis is a Filipino, and a senior chemist based in the Middle East. He has spent more than a dozen of years working in research, power plants, oil, water treatment and beverages and food processes. More recently, he is playing in a conforming lab as household chemicals and cosmetic chemist. He is also one of the organizers of PEBA, or the Pinoy Expats/OFW Blog Awards, Inc, a duly registered non-profit, non-stock organization dedicated to helping OFWs around the world through social media. 

"The data's and metrics are not that much, but our online presence and blog is not to win awards, gain glory or earn money, but to touch lives and inspire others, 'to do good continually' and to live life to the fullest, loving without expecting anything, learning the good things, and leaving a lasting legacy. 

This is our HOME - I hope you'll be inspired and enjoy!"


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Tuesday, March 07, 2006

My Mom and I

Hey, this poem was kinda old since I sent it to special friends
last October, 14 years after Mom died. I just decided to post it in here.

Hope you'll like it.


My Mom and I 

By : Mr. Thoughtskoto 

(This poem was an official entry to the International 

New Era Magazine Writing Contest, October 1998) 



You feed my soul,

And let me grow.

Tender hands,

Voice that soothes my ears,

Lay me down.

Help me stand.

Hold me up.

Then let me go…


The years pass by…


I am feeding you now,

Am still growing.

Rough hands.

Words that commands love and respect.

Lay you down in your bed.

Help you stand with your cane.

Hold you up that you'll not fall.

Then you're gone…


But…

The years will never end…for us 









---The first line talks about my Mom, who she was, and what she did to me, to us all in the family. The second line talks about me, when she was stricken with cancer. What I did to her, and what I thought and felt for her, that's why it was entitled " MY MOM AND I."



Today, exactly 14 years since she was gone, I can only look back with so much gratitude to God for guiding us and even sometimes taking us by the hands and leading us to the right way. 



I am sharing this poem to you, 7 years after it was first composed dedicated to my friends, to the great mothers, and mothers-to-be in this world. Next to the love of Christ, for me, the greatest love here on earth is the love of a mother! Great Kudos to all of you!

Thursday, December 15, 2005

DESIDERATA

DESIDERATA

Go placidly,

Amid the noise and haste

And remember what peace there maybe in silence

As far as possible with out surrender, be on good terms with all persons

Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others

Even the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations of the spirit

If you compare yourself to others, you may become vain and bitter

For always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself

Enjoy your achievements, as well as your plans

Keep interested in your own career, however humble

It is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time

Exercise cautions in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery

But let this not blind you to what virtue there is, many persons strive for

And everywhere life is full of heroism

Be yourself

Especially do not feign affection

Neither be cynical about love

For in the face of all aridity and disenchantment

It is perennial as the grass

Take kindly the counsel of years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune

But do not distress yourself with imaginings

Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself

You are a child of the universe

No less than the trees and the stars

You have a right to be here

And whether or not it is clear to you

No doubt the universe is unfolding as it should

Therefore, be at peace with God

Whatever you conceive Him to be

And whatever your labors and aspirations

In the noisy confusion of life

Keep peace with your soul

With all its shame, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world

Be careful

Strive to be happy

-found in Old Saint Paul’s Church, Baltimore dated 1601 -

CREEDENDA - from "The Gift of Acabar"


Turn away from the crowd and its fruitless pursuit of fame and gold
Never look back as you close your door to the sorry tumult of greed and ambition
Wipe away your tears of failure and misfortune
Lay aside your heavy load and rest until your heart is still
Be at peace
Already it is later than you think, for your earthly life at best
Is only a blink of an eye between two eternities
Be unafraid
NOTHING here can harm you except yourself
Do that which you dread and cherish those victories with pride
Concentrate your energy
To be everywhere is to be nowhere
Be jealous with your time – it is your greatest treasure
Reconsider your goals
Before you set your heart too much on anything,
Examine how happy they are who already possess them what you desire
Love your family and count your blessings
Reflect on how eagerly they would be sought if you did not have them
Put aside your impossible dreams and complete your task at hand
No matter how distasteful (they are)
All great achievements come from working and waiting
God’s delays and never God’s denials
Hold on. Hold fast
Know that your paymaster is always near
What you sow, good or evil is that you will reap
Never blame your condition on others
You are what you are through your own choice alone
Learn to live with honest poverty, if you must
And turn to more important matters than transporting gold to your grave
Never trouble halfway, anxiety is the rust of life
When you add to tomorrow’s burden, their weight becomes unbearable
Avoid the mourner’s bench and give thanks instead, for your defeats
You would not receive them if you did not need them
Always learn from others
He who teaches himself is a fool for a master
Be careful. Do not overload your conscience
Conduct your life as if it was spent in an arena filled with tattlers
Avoid boasting, if you see anything in you that puffs you with pride
Look closer, you will find more than enough to make you humble
Be wise.
Realize that all men are not created equal
For there is no equality in nature
Work everyday as if it were your first
Yet tenderly treat the lives you touch as if it will end at midnight
Love everyone, even those who deny you, for hate is a luxury you cannot afford
Yet no man was ever born whose work was not born with him
Seek out those in need.
Learn that he who delivers with one hand will always gather with two.
Be of good cheer
Above all, remember that very little is needed to make a happy life
Look up. Cling simply to God and journey quietly on your pathway
To forever with charity and smile
When you depart it will be said by all
That your legacy was a better world than the one that you found.

By: Og Mandino & Buddy Kaye-From ‘ The Gift of Acabar’

A CREED FOR LIFE

A CREED for LIFE

Never be idle
Make few promises
Always speak the truth
Live within your income
Never speak evil of anyone
Keep good company or none
Live up to your engagements
Never play game of chance
Drink no intoxicating drinks
Good character is always above anything else
Keep your own secrets if you have any
Never borrow if you can possibly help it
Do not marry until you are able to support a wife
When you speak to a person look into his eyes
Save when you are young to spend when you are old
Good company and good conversations are the sinews of virtue
Your character cannot be essentially injured except by your own acts
If anybody speaks evil of you - let your life be good so that no one believes him
When you retire at night, think over what you have done during the day
If your hands cannot be employed usefully, attend to the culture of your mind
Write your ideas, a mind with out a pen is only a wish
If you can't speak anything that will build a person, say NOTHING
NOTHING is so dark that HE cannot give light and hope to your circumstances
Whatever you do in life, just always do what is best
Sometimes the most important thing that you can share is yourself
Love is not something that you say, it is something that you do
God gave man two ears and a mouth so he can listen twice as much as he speak
Reaching out is risking, if you are willing to risk you can build a relationship
If one door will be close, some windows may still be open
Heart can sometimes understand better than the mind

UNSPOKEN PRAYERS

UNSPOKEN PRAYERS

I asked God for strength that I might achieve

I was made weak

That I might light humbly to obey

I asked God for health that I might do greater things

I was given infirmity

That I might do better things

I asked God for riches that I might be happy

I was given poverty

That I might be humble and wiser

I asked God for all things that I might enjoy life

I was given life

That I might enjoy all things

I asked God for wisdom that I might know

I was given trials and challenges

That I might comprehend

I asked God for love that I might share my testimony to others

I was given a valiant testimony

That I may learn to love others

I got NOTHING that I asked for

But everything I had hoped for;

Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered

I am among all men, most richly blessed.

THE WINNER and the LOSSER



The WINNER is always part of the ANSWER

The LOSER always a part of the PROBLEM

The WINNER always has a PROGRAMME

The Loser always has an EXCUSE

The WINNER says "LET ME DO IT"

The Loser says "THAT'S NOT MY JOB"

The WINNER sees an answer for every problem

The Loser sees a problem in every answer

The WINNER sees a green near every sandtrap

The Loser sees two or three sandtraps near every green

The WINNER says "IT MAYBE DIFFICULT BUT IT"S POSSIBLE"

The Loser says "It maybe possible but it's difficult".

TAKE TIME


TAKE TIME

Take time to think
It is the source of power
Take time to read
It is the foundation of wisdom
Take time to play
It is the secret of staying young
Take time to be quiet
It is the moment to seek God
Take time to be aware
It is the opportunity to help others
Take time to love and be loved
It is God's greatest gift
Take time to laugh
It is the music of the soul
Take time to be friendly
It is the road to happiness
Take time to dream
It is what the future is made of
Take time to pray
It is the greatest power here on earth
Take time to work
It is by working that we live….
(Hallmark)

Wednesday, December 14, 2005

THE QUEST FOR EXCELLENCE

The Quest for Excellence
By President Gordon B. Hinckley
I first read the following words 67 years ago in a college English class: “What a piece of work is man! how noble in reason! how infinite in faculty! in form and moving how express and admirable! in action how like an angel! in apprehension how like a god! the beauty of the world! the paragon of animals!” (Hamlet, act 2, scene 2, lines 303–7).

I recognize that these words of Hamlet were spoken in irony. And yet there is so much of truth in them. They describe the great potential excellence of men and women. If Shakespeare had written nothing else, I think he would have been remembered for these few words of soliloquy. They go hand in hand with these words of David:

“When I consider thy heavens, the work of thy fingers, the moon and the stars, which thou hast ordained;

“What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him?

“For thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honour” (Ps. 8:3–5).

They also go with the words of the Lord to Job when He spoke out of the whirlwind:

“Where wast thou when I laid the foundations of the earth? declare, if thou hast understanding. …

“When the morning stars sang together, and all the sons of God shouted for joy?” (Job 38:4, 7).

These magnificent words declare the wonder of man. And when I speak of man, I of course speak also of woman. We are all children of God, and there is something of His divinity within each of us. We are more than a son or daughter of Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So who reside in such-and-such a place. We are of the family of God, with such a tremendous potential for excellence. The distance between mediocrity and excellence can be ever so small. As we shall see again when the Winter Olympics come to Salt Lake City in 2002, that difference will be measured in tenths of seconds. The little extra effort we make becomes such a tremendous difference.

I heard one of my brethren tell of a recent visit he made to a prison. There he noticed a young man, handsome in appearance and intelligent in his ways.

My brother said to the prison official, “What is that young man doing in here?”

The reply was that one evening he had taken his mother’s car, had obtained some beer and drunk it, and then, out of control of himself, he drove the car down the sidewalk and killed two girls.

I do not know how long he will be in prison, but I do know that he will never entirely get over his feelings concerning the act that put him there. On such small hinges turn the gates of our lives. Little mistakes, which seem so unimportant in their beginnings, determine the eternal courses we follow.

I want to invite us all to walk a higher road of excellence. Recently I picked up an old book and read Lytton Strachey’s Life of Florence Nightingale. I think books of that kind are not read very much these days. I had read it once before, long ago. But my rereading brought a new sense of admiration and respect for this great young woman of England who made a tremendous difference in her time.

She was born to the upper class, to party and to dance, to go to the races and look pretty in society. But she would have none of it. Even her parents could not understand her. Her great overwhelming desire was to alleviate pain and suffering, to hasten healing, to make less dreadful the hospitals of the day. She never married. She devoted herself to nursing and became expert according to the training then available.

Britain became embroiled in the Crimean War. She had friends at the head of the government and relentlessly pursued and persuaded them until she was appointed head of the hospital in Scutari, where thousands of the victims of the war were brought.

The picture that greeted her here was one of absolute despair. An old warehouse served as a hospital. The sanitary conditions were terrible. The cooking facilities were terrible. Wounded men were crowded in great rooms that reeked of foul odors and were filled with the cries of the suffering.

This frail young woman, with those she had recruited to go with her, set to work. They beat down the walls of bureaucracy. They beat on the heads of the bureaucrats. I quote from Mr. Strachey: “For those who watched her at work among the sick, moving day and night from bed to bed, with that unflinching courage, with the indefatigable vigilance, it seems as if the concentrated force of an undivided and unparalleled devotion could hardly suffice for that first portion of her task alone. Wherever, in those vast wards suffering was at its worst and the need for help was greatest, there, as if by magic, was Miss Nightingale.”

The beds that held the suffering men stretched over six kilometers, with barely space between each bed to walk. But somehow, within a period of six months, “the confusion and the pressure in the wards had come to an end; order reigned in them, and cleanliness; the supplies were bountiful and prompt; important sanitary works had been carried out. One simple comparison of figures was enough to reveal the extraordinary change: the rate of mortality among the cases treated had fallen from 42 percent to 22 per thousand” (Life of Florence Nightingale [1934], 1186).

She had brought to pass an absolute miracle. Lives by the thousands were saved. Suffering was mitigated. Cheer and warmth and light came into the lives of men who otherwise would have died in that dark and dreadful place.

The war ended. She might have gone back to London a heroine. The public press had sung her praise. Her name was familiar to everyone. But she returned incognito to escape the adulation she might have received.

She continued her work for another 50 years, changing the hospitals both military and civilian. She died at an advanced age, bedridden for a good while, but still improving the circumstances of those who suffer.

Perhaps no other woman in the history of the world has done so much to reduce human misery as this lady with the lamp, who walked through the vast wards of Scutari in the middle of the 19th century, spreading cheer and comfort, faith and hope to those who writhed in pain. Her life was a life of excellence.

My wife likes to tell the story of a friend of hers who, when she was a little girl, was left an orphan. She scarcely knew her mother. As she grew, she wondered about her mother: what kind of a girl, what kind of a woman was she?

One day she came across her mother’s old report card. The teacher had noted on that card, “This student is excellent in every way.”

When she read that, her entire life changed. She recognized that her mother was a woman of excellence. Her whole attitude changed. She took on the aura of excellence herself and became a remarkable woman in her own right. She married a man who is recognized in many communities, and their children have distinguished themselves for their excellence.

I speak of the need for a little more effort, a little more self-discipline, a little more consecrated effort in the direction of excellence in our lives.

This is the great day of decision for each of us. For many it is the time of beginning something that will go on for as long as you live. I plead with you: don’t be a scrub! Rise to the high ground of spiritual, mental, and physical excellence. You can do it. You may not be a genius. You may be lacking in some skills. But so many of us can do better than we are now doing. We are members of this great Church whose influence is now felt over the world. We are people with a present and with a future. Don’t muff your opportunities. Be excellent.

Those of you who are not married are hoping to find a companion, among other things. I could wish for you nothing better than a good marriage, a happy marriage, a marriage fruitful in the sweet and satisfying things of life. Your marriage will not be excellent if it is marred with argument, if it is filled with disrespect one for another, if there is any lack of loyalty or devotion to one another. Cherish your spouse as the greatest possession of your life and treat him or her accordingly. Make it your constant goal to add to the happiness and comfort for your companion. Never permit yourself to let down in your affection, or your respect, or your faith in one another. Be excellent in every way.

You will find your greatest example in the Son of God. I hope that each of you will make Him your friend. I hope you will strive to walk in His paths, extending mercy, blessing those who struggle, living with less selfishness, reaching out to others.

He is the greatest example of excellence in all the world. He condescended to come to earth under the most humble of circumstances. He grew up as the son of Joseph the carpenter. He struggled with the adversary on the Mount of Temptation. He came forth resplendent and beautiful and magnificent to teach the world. During His brief ministry, He brought more of truth, more of hope, more of mercy, more of love than anyone else who has walked the earth. He died on Calvary’s cross for each of us. He arose the third day, “the firstfruits of them that slept” (1 Cor. 15:20), bringing the promise of resurrection to all mankind and the hope of exaltation to all who would walk in obedience to His teachings. He was the great paragon of righteousness, the only perfect man ever to walk the earth. His was the wondrous example toward whom each of us might point our lives in our eternal quest for excellence.

The prophet Moroni declared, “In the gift of his Son hath God prepared a more excellent way” (Ether 12:11). You have the witness of that faith. You have the testimony of that faith. You have the example of that faith. Let us all try to stand a little taller, rise a little higher, be a little better. Make the extra effort. You will be happier. You will know a new satisfaction, a new gladness in your heart.

Jesus said, “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect” (Matt. 5:48). That is the great crowning example of excellence. May each of us have a rich and wonderful life moving in that direction. We will not become perfect in a day or a month or a year. We will not accomplish it in a lifetime, but we can keep trying, starting with our more obvious weaknesses and gradually converting them to strengths as we go forward with our lives.

“Look to God and live” (Alma 37:47). Kneel before Him in supplication. He will help you. He will bless you. He will comfort and sustain you. There will be progress. There will be growth. There will be improvement. And there will be much of added happiness.

If there has been failure in the past, if there has been sin, if there has been indolence, they may all be overcome.

Tremendous is your opportunity to reach beyond the hoped-for goal of wealth and worldly success, though that may have some modest importance, to build and strengthen others, to relieve suffering, to aid in making the world a better place, to pick up and carry the lantern of Florence Nightingale in walking through the pain-ridden wards of the world.

It was said of the Master that He “went about doing good” (Acts 10:38). In that process He became the epitome of perfection.

May the Lord bless each of us as we walk the path to perfection that the Lord has asked us to walk—with hope, with faith, and with that charity which “is the pure love of Christ” (Moro. 7:47).

Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

7 Habits Of Highly Effective People®
Dr. Stephen Covey's inspirational book –

Dr Stephen Covey is a hugely influential management guru, whose book The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People, became a blueprint for personal development when it was published in 1990. The Seven Habits are said by some to be easy to understand but not as easy to apply. Don't let the challenge daunt you: The 'Seven Habits' are a remarkable set of inspirational and aspirational standards for anyone who seeks to live a full, purposeful and good life, and are applicable today more than ever, as the business world becomes more attuned to humanist concepts. Covey's values are full of integrity and humanity, and contrast strongly with the process-based ideologies that characterized management thinking in earlier times.
Stephen Covey, as well as being a renowned writer, speaker, academic and humanist, has also built a huge training and consultancy products and services business - Franklin Covey which has a global reach, and has at one time or another consulted with and provided training services to most of the world's leading corporations.
The 7 Habits has sold 15 million copies and continues to sell 50,000 to 100,000 a month.
A survey by Chief Executive magazine chose 7 Habits as the most influential book of the 20th century. Time magazine in 1996 named Covey one of the 25 most influential Americans.

Covey doesn't like to be recognized and uses extreme down-dressing and a cap over his shaved head to travel incognito. But he's constantly on his cell phone to family and says his voice gives him away because, at 1.5 million copies, 7 Habits is the best-selling non-fiction audio book in history

Fast on the first Sunday of every month. That's what the Covey family does. Savings on the grocery bill are given to the poor. The family also fasts when anyone in the family is seriously ill or otherwise in need of their prayers. The Coveys are Mormons. The library is packed with books on religion

Covey has made a fortune on books and speaking engagements since he turned 50, but the evidence is difficult to find. He owns a vacation cabin in Montana, and his home is the most elevated overlooking Provo on the bench of the Wasatch mountain range, the venue of the 2002 Winter Olympics. But his property and his remaining 1.1 million FranklinCovey shares are in a charitable trust he controls, and he says it's all been donated largely to the Mormon Church and church-affiliated Brigham Young University.

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE® + 1
Habit 1 - BE PROACTIVE®
This is the ability to control one's environment, rather than have it control you, as is so often the case. Self determination, choice, and the power to decide response to stimulus, conditions and circumstances
Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND®
Covey calls this the habit of personal leadership - leading oneself that is, towards what you consider your aims. By developing the habit of concentrating on relevant activities you will build a platform to avoid distractions and become more productive and successful.
Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST®
Covey calls this the habit of personal management. This is about organising and implementing activities in line with the aims established in habit 2. Covey says that habit 2 is the first, or mental creation; habit 3 is the second, or physical creation. (See the section on time management.)
Habit 4 - THINK WIN-WIN®
Covey calls this the habit of interpersonal leadership, necessary because achievements are largely dependent on co-operative efforts with others. He says that win-win is based on the assumption that there is plenty for everyone, and that success follows a co-operative approach more naturally than the confrontation of win-or-lose.
Habit 5 - SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND AND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD®
One of the great maxims of the modern age. This is Covey's habit of communication, and it's extremely powerful. Covey helps to explain this in his simple analogy 'diagnose before you prescribe'. Simple and effective, and essential for developing and maintaining positive relationships in all aspects of life. (See the associated sections on Empathy, Transactional Analysis, and the Johari Window.)
Habit 6 - SYNERGIZE®
Covey says this is the habit of creative co-operation - the principle that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, which implicitly lays down the challenge to see the good and potential in the other person's contribution.
Habit 7 - SHARPEN THE SAW®
This is the habit of self renewal, says Covey, and it necessarily surrounds all the other habits, enabling and encouraging them to happen and grow. Covey interprets the self into four parts: the spiritual, mental, physical and the social/emotional, which all need feeding and developing.
Stephen Covey's Seven Habits are a simple set of rules for life - inter-related and synergistic, and yet each one powerful and worthy of adopting and following in its own right. For many people, reading Covey's work, or listening to him speak, literally changes their lives. This is powerful stuff indeed and highly recommended.
This 7 Habits summary is just a brief overview - the full work is fascinating, comprehensive, and thoroughly uplifting. Read the book, or listen to the full tape series if you can get hold of it.
In his more recent book 'The 8th Habit', Stephen Covey introduced (logically) an the eighth habit, which deals with personal fulfilment and helping others to achieve fulfilment too. The book also focuses on leadership.
Habit 8 – FIND YOUR VOICE and INSPIRE OTHERS to FIND THEIRS.