Last Friday, nagulat ako, at tumabi si Mrs. Thoughtskoto sa akin at umiiyak na hawak-hawak si Hevyn. She said there are these women, or should I say OLDIES-NOTHING-TO-DO-WITH-THEIR-LIFE women who talks about us falsely and it reach her, purposely or inadvertently.
Para sa akin wala lang yun, mauubusan lang sila ng laway sa kadadadada, wala silang mapapala kasi busy kami sa pagpapapayaman at pagpapapataba but for her, lalo na hindi tama, gusto niyang klaruhin at ikorek. So firstly, when given an opportunity, she went straight to one QUACK-QUACK woman and wanted to clarify things but this woman refuse to talked to her. Kaya ayun umiyak sa aking tabi.
(deleted as per request from my good wife)
Pero not really, di ko sasabihin yun. Di namin sila kalevel, sabi nga ni Mrs. Thoughstkoto. At di rin namin sila papansinin. Matutuyo na lang ang laway nila, wala silang makukuha samin kasi ang sabi ko nga, busy kami sa pagpapataba at pagpapayaman. Lol!
I am on my early 30’s, and Mrs. Thoughtskoto is going 25, and these women gossiping about us are between ages 50-60. Para nga kaming showbiz personality at celebrity na pinaguusapan. Di ko lang alam bakit kami ang talk of the town, seguro sobrang maganda lang talaga ang misis ko, at medyo pogi naman ako. (lol)
Nagblog na ang misis ko about this here…but I’d like to share this quote para maiwasan natin ang pagiging tsismoso at tsismosa.
A variation of Eleonor Roosevelt quote:
“Great minds talk about ideas.
Big minds talk about things.
Small minds talk about other people.”
Kayo na bahala pumili anong “mind” gusto niyo. Kasi sa isip ko, sabi ko sa mga nagtsitsismis samin, ‘mind your own business’, kung wala pa rin, mind you, baka M & M na talaga sila, my shortcut of Mhok Mafi (Walang Mind) Hehehe.
©2009 THOUGHTSKOTO
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Sa movie na Doubt, Philip Seymour Hoffman (the priest) delivered a sermon on gossiping. He said: (medyo mahaba to so brace yourself):
Is gossiping a sin?, the woman asked Father Rourke.
Yes, Father Rourke answered.
The woman said she was sorry and asked for forgiveness.
Not so fast, the priest said. I want you to go home, take a pillow up on your roof, cut it open with a knife, and return here to me.
The woman did just that and then went back to Father Rourke.
The priest asked what happened after she cut the pillow with a knife.
Feathers...feathers everywhere, Father.
Now I want you to go back and gather up every last feather that flew out in the wind.
It can't be done, I don't know where they went.
That, the priest said, is gossip.
My advice: Don't fan the gossips by reacting to it. Kapag pinatulan mo ang tsismis, lalo itong lumalaki. If it's not true, gossip will die a natural death.
My other advice: Kausapin minsan ng masinsinan ang nagtsismis. And tell her that you're praying for her soul. And then pray for her soul.
Haba a!
Tama ka Nebz, Thanks for that movie story about the priest sermon. It's really true.
Me and my wife talk about a quote somewhere that we read but can't remember kung saan namin nabasa.
"If they say bad things about u, live a good life, so when they keep saying bad things behind your back, no one will believe them."
Hehehe talagang kabisado ni Nebz ang eksena...cool!
Hey friend.. di dapat pinag aaksayahan ng oras ang mga matatanda na walang pinagkatandaan...saka ganun daw talaga e kapag mahitik ang bunga pinupukol kasi.... masarap daw bunga nyo ni mrs e :)
musta na ba?
Inggit ang kadalasang dahilan ng gossip. Ang mga taong nagtsisismis sayo ay 'yong mga tao na ayaw nilang makita kang maligaya, masaya at marangya sa buhay. Pero para sa akin dapat mong bigyang pansin at kausapin mo ang mga taong 'yon kasi marami ng tahanang nawawasak at mawawasak dahil sa kanila..Kanta 'yon ah..hehe
Hala... at showbiz couple na pala ang Thoughts family...
Para sa mga tsismosang (palaka!) isang lumalagapak na:
K-A-L-I-W-A-L-I!!!
Hamo't pag yumaman at tumaba ang Thoughts family lalapit sa inyo ang mga yan at itatanong naman pano kayo tumaba at yumaman.. ang isagot mo lang:
"nung panahong iniintriga nyo kami ni misis, hindi namin kayo pinansin... nagpayaman at nagpataba na lang kami.... kaya kung gusto nyong yumaman at tumaba... antayin nyong matsismis din kayo! tapos wag nyo ding pansinin! effective un! db it shows?!" (bumulong ka pa ng medyo malakas "MAMATAY KAYO SA INGGIT")
sabay bagsak ng pinto!
ayun lang!
Wow this is way too personal. I hope you can find the strength and wisdom to face such ordeal. May I wish you and your wife a happy day and kisses to your cute little baby..
Cares a lot,
Ate Loida
i hope things will get better. :) are these women pinoys too? i think when pinoys are outside the country, there is a tendency for crab mentality. i hope i'm wrong though. goodluck!
Ayaw mo nun, sikat ka. : )
Inggit lang yan at gawain ng taong walang magawa. Most probable these women are "dependents" of OFWs.
don't mind them. let them feel the guilt, basta tayo wala tayo ginagawa.
we'll end up passing that dirt into our hands kung papatulan natin sila.
sabi mo nga let it go....
deadma na lang kuya kenji..
kasi pag pinatulan mo pa yung chismis..kayo pa yung masisisi in the end...
gaya nga ng sabi mo, hindi niyo siya/sila kalevel..
continue nio lang po yung pagpapayaman at pagpapataba..hehe
I will quote from Bible ha: (hanep parang totoo)
"A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man who talks too much."
Proverbs 20:19
Ayan so iwasan nyo sila yan ang payo ko hehehe.
Hay naku, ang chismis yata eh kakambal na ng buhay ng tao naks naman hehehe (remember may hula ako about chismis? hehehe). Kaya huwag damdamin ang mga chismis, chismis lang yan.
Isang hirit pa:
"The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts."
Proverbs 26:22
"A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue. A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret" (Proverbs 11:12-13).
Always remember that an idle mind is a devil's workshop, and God cautions us to avoid them so we will not commit sin too.
"A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a man [or woman] who talks too much" (Proverbs 20:19)
May God bless you and your family.
wow! ang galing, touch kami sa inyo lahat. ang sarap ng feeling may mga taong nagmamalasakit samin. hirap talaga yung bata ka pa sa pamilyang pamumuhay, at malayo sa mga magulang, hehehe, but we found a family in you, all of you guys! Thank you so much!
iba talaga pag gwapo parekoy!...kaya wag nang magtaka sa chismis...
dbale..di ka nagiisa...lolz..
Great ,Big at Small....
may i apply na lang sa iba yan parekoy!...lol..
seryoso...ang importante parekoy maprotektahan mo si MRs. ...ingatz parekoy...
there will always be people like that... mga taong punung-puno ng insecurities sa katawan.. all my life napalibutan ako ng gma taong ganyan.. there are times na kahit anong pag ignore ko, naapektuhan pa rin ako, tao lang din kase ako.. they soemtimes get to me lalo kapag nakikisabay sila sa mga problema ko..
pero, sa inyo ni shie (she doesnt want me to call ehr "ate" hehehe) ull get through it, ull be able to get over it and just ignore them.. dalawa kayo eh.. mas madaling palagpasin ang gma bagay-bagay lalo at alam mong may kakampi ka kahit san man mapunta ang diskusyon.. just dotn let it affect the relationship u have. i knoe there may be times na mahirap na ignore sila.. just think they dont exist.. you dont live because of them...
In the face of harmful gossip, your best defense is your fine conduct. as “Wisdom is proved righteous by its works.”
So try to remain truly friendly and loving. You might be surprised at how quickly that can stop the gossip—or at least enable you to endure its effects.
If naalala nyo,
I was cloned,or me gumaya sa blog ko as francescainfrance, pero napanalo ko ang laban,in a way, sa naninira sa akin.she surrendered when I fight with her my fine fight. showing honest and friendly Good deeds...
more on this link:
http://www.watchtower.org/e/200708a/article_01.htm
pls copy paste sa browser...
Kenjie, all the best.
To Mrs Thoughtskoto also.
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